Are you struggling to overcome self-sabotaging thoughts and habits?
Have you tried any of the following and still aren't getting the results you want?
- Focusing on your BIG WHY
- Putting your intentions down in your calendar
- Publicly announcing your commitment to change
- Joining a group
- Practicing stress management and mindfulness
- Finding a buddy to hold you accountable
- Setting up “tiny” or “atomic” habits
- Learning new skills
- Changing your environment
- Challenging your dysfunctional thoughts and replacing them with empowering ones
- Practicing separation from your thoughts
That list is pretty much how I've been coaching for the past decade. And every one of those strategies can be effective, as my many happy and successful clients can attest.
But sometimes the root cause of your self-sabotage goes deeper than thought and behavior. It's not reachable through mindfulness or relaxation.
Sometimes the root cause is a core belief that's so deeply ingrained that you're not aware of it at all. You might have “learned” it before you could talk. You might have learned it in a moment of trauma. You might have learned it unconsciously based on a “data set” of experiences that is no longer relevant.
And rarely can the techniques and strategies listed above remove a root cause like that.
In the past year, I've added a new approach to my coaching, based on the recent science that's discovered how to change our brains to change our thoughts, emotions, and habits.
The brain process is called Memory Reconsolidation, and it's the key to how our brains update themselves when faced with new information that contradicts old learnings.
The trouble is, the brain needs some specific things to happen in a specific order to allow memory reconsolidation to occur. Because “unlearning” has to be a very conservative process – otherwise we wouldn't be able to function in the world.
But once the tumblers in the brain are all in position, it becomes very easy for the brain to rewire itself to reflect its new understanding of the world. In fact, the brain does it automatically all the time, updating based on new information.
So longstanding habits can simply melt away. And since the root cause that was keeping them alive is gone, they don't return. And there's no effort required to maintain this state.
I've added Memory Reconsolidation work to my own coaching, and can attest to its amazing efficacy. So much so, that I'm devoting the next year to mastering it, studying with the best clinicians and teachers in the world, and then introducing it into health coaching through my trainings.
Right now, I want to triple my coaching practice to get more and more opportunities to do this work. And I'm lowering my fees – a lot – to make it easier for people to work with me.
If you're interested in working with me (and willing to commit to a minimum of 2 months), click the link below to open the form in a new browser tab and I'll get back to you within 3 business days.