Nina Cooke on Being One Thought Away from Happiness: PYP 152

nina-cookeNina Cooke is a performance coach who specializes in helping people find success, balance, and happiness in their lives by questioning their most subterranean beliefs and thought patterns. I met her through a mutual friend who shared with me how helpful Nina had been in showing him how to unlock his own potential.

I spoke with Nina (actually, experienced a 2-hour session with her!) and was impressed by what I saw as her Buddhist philosophy applied to real human problems. In my case, we looked at some ways my faulty thinking has been holding me back in both my career and my wider mission on this planet.

After the session, it occurred to me that the same concepts and exercises Nina uses for performance coaching with entrepreneurs is highly relevant – and perfectly adaptable – to many of the diet and lifestyle habits that trip us up.

So I got her on the Skype to talk about changing health behaviors through deep dives into our programmed thoughts. We covered:

  • how almost all of life's challenges occur “between the ears”
  • how thoughts drive behaviors and subsequent results
  • Nina's childhood of separation from her family, and what that “taught” her about herself
  • the psychic cost of fitting in and winning others' approval
  • (almost) everyone's big sad question: “Am I stuck this way forever?”
  • two self-help books that triggered Nina's journey of healing
  • discovering the work of Morty Lefko
  • weight loss and the fear of becoming someone else
  • recasting failure as learning
  • why we're scared to give up our attachment to our interpretation of reality (me and the recent North Carolina anti-transgender bill, for example)
  • overeating as an optional stepping stone between discomfort and comfort
  • replacing biscuits with naps
  • the myth of “not enough”
  • how we get programmed during the first six years of our lives, and can continue fulfilling that programming for the rest – unless we get wise to it
  • the challenge question: “Is this always true?”
  • letting go of interpretations and letting go of imaginary supports on a ropes course
  • bad habits as gateways to peace and happiness
  • the reality question: “Am I OK right now?”
  • being one thought away from happiness
  • and much more…

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7 Responses to “Nina Cooke on Being One Thought Away from Happiness: PYP 152”

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  1. Edwin says:

    This was a really great podcast.

    I love how there is such a conviction for the people you work with (and your life purpose at large of helping others experience a healthy life) and as a host find it so powerful freely and vulnerably you jump into a discussion, and in this episode share your thoughts from a level 1 perspective (as any client would).

    In Co-Active coaching we meet with clients and help them dig into your values (which one’s aren’t they honoring/which ones do they never compromise), what’s your dream / what do you want, help them experience different perspectives to achieve balance and make commitments and at the same time sit with the things/feelings we avoid. I loved this call because a lot that was brought up mirrors a lot of Co-Active coaching.

    SO happy for this podcast and am sharing it with my cohorts as I think it will help us in better serving our clients esp the work/talk about limiting beliefs.

    Thanks for this contribution!

  2. lani says:

    i just loved this podcast. I really like that you question and push the speakers, not accepting things automatically. It feels more authentic!!

    • Howard says:

      Thanks, Lani. Honestly, I do the podcast for myself. So if I’m not satisfied with an answer, I tend to cling to the question until I get resolution or it goes nowhere.When it takes a while, it’s usually because I didn’t ask a clear question at first.

  3. Thank You says:


    Another informative podcast. The methods spoken about and other methods may work for some and can be helpful. Another method that one should practice/try, is Self-Enquiry as taught by Bhagavan Sri Ramana Maharshi. Here is some links with more information:

    David Godman[0], books written by him and books he recommends[1]. Chapter five of Be As You Are[2], Who am I?[3] and David Godman’s YouTube channel[4], which is filled with a lot information and stories. His blog[5], can get Bhagavan Sri Ramana Maharshi books from here[6], if Amazon prices are too high.








    Here are some more links:

    Thank You and keep them coming.

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