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The Neuroscience of Changing Other People’s Minds with Tali Sharot: PYP 253

Tali Sharot is an Associate Professor of Cognitive Neuroscience at University College London, and director of the Affective Brain Lab. Affective, as in emotions and motivation. Brain, as in processing and decisions. Drawing on recent groundbreaking work in behavioral economics and neuroscience, Sharot shows us how to navigate the intricacies and predictable biases of minds; our own and those of others.

Dr. Sharot is the author of the new book The Influential Mind: What the Brain Reveals About Our Power to Change Others. When I saw the title, I knew I had to discover what she knows about influence: how we can do it well, and how we often screw it up.

I wasn't disappointed. There are thousands of books on persuasion and influence out there; few if any are as scientifically rigorous and practical.

I was delighted when Dr. Sharot agreed to talk about her insights and recommendations on the podcast. And the Atlantic Ocean, often stroppy when it comes to facilitating Skype calls, cooperated beautifully so that we could achieve darn good audio quality.

Dr. Sharot and I discussed:

  • why very smart people suffer more from confirmation bias than the rest of us
  • how to deal with confirmation bias without reinforcing it
  • the UCLA vaccination intervention
  • “there's always something we agree on”
  • brain studies of pairs of people agreeing and disagreeing
  • the evolutionary origins of confirmation bias, and why we don't believe people who claim to have seen pink elephants
  • how to talk to someone who believes in the health benefits of a paleo diet
  • “if we enjoy eating meat, we don't want to believe that it's not good for us”
  • the strategic deployment of carrots and sticks
  • the amazing “Go/No Go” brain circuit, and the mixed message of inhibition as a means to a reward
  • a new and empowering reinterpretation of the famous Mischel “Marshmallow Study”
  • the butterfly effect in groupthink
  • what would our phobias look like if they were rational and statistically based?
  • why we fear flying more than driving
  • we should be very scared of medicating ourselves
  • the importance of giving our counterpart a feeling of control and agency when we're trying to influence them
  • “under threat, we automatically absorb cues about danger”
  • “change their state before you change their mind”
  • the first step is always awareness
  • and much more…

Links

The Influential Mind

The Optimism Bias

The Affective Brain Lab website

The Affective Brain Lab on Twitter

The Skin Rash / Gun Control study: Motivated Numeracy and Enlightened Self-Government

Marc Guitart-Masip button-pushing experiment: “Action Controls Dopaminergic Enhancement of Reward Representations

Sean Taylor's study of manipulated initial ratings: “Social Influence Bias: A Randomized Experiment

Dr Howie Jacobson

This podcast is a labor of love and a way to give back to the world that has given me so much. That's why there aren't any sponsors (except me :).

My day job is helping leaders and their teams master their mindsets to remove all obstacles to heart-centered high performance.

Here are three gigs that I do:

1. Executive and Senior Leadership Mentoring and Facilitation

I work with high performing executive teams in organizations — and executive teams that need to become high  performing. My focus is mindset mastery, because it’s our mindsets that either support high performance or get in the way.

At this level, everyone’s got the skills and experience to excel and contribute at the highest level. What holds people back is mindset stuff: specifically the triggers that get them out of creative engagement and into fight-or-flight defensiveness.

My practice is all about teaching people to respond differently to those triggers by updating old maps — essentially removing the glitches that the triggers grab onto.

2. Executive Coaching: Quick Wins for High Performance

I work with individual executives and leaders, one on one. The program is called Quick Wins for High Performance, and what we do is, we work strategically on one or two areas that are holding you back and keeping you from performing at your best.

We reverse engineer the presenting problems — too much work and not enough time, underperforming employees and teams, maddening organizational inefficiencies, etc — and identify and rewire the suboptimal mindsets that are behind those problems.

The work is all about updating your mental maps so your actions and responses are always appropriate, proportionate, and strategic.

3. High Stakes Conversations for Fast Growing Small Business Teams

I help small business teams have high stakes conversations with skill, humor, and grace. When people feel safe, they can do their best, most creative, most collaborative work.

So that's what I do. If you'd like any of those results, drop me a line and tell me about yourself.

You CAN Change Other People!

Well, that's what Peter Bregman and I claim in our provocative book of that title.

What we really mean is, you can bring out the best in the people around you. If you think you're powerless to help people change, it's because you've been going about it the wrong way.

Discover our straightforward, replicable process here: You Can Change Other People.

 

Music

The Plant Yourself Podcast theme music, “Dance of Peace (Sabali Don),” is generously provided by Will Ridenour, a kora player from North Carolina who has trained with top Senegalese musicians.

It can be found on his first CD, titled Will Ridenour.

You can learn about Will, listen to more tracks, and buy music on his website, WillRidenour.com.

Gratitudes

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